Online dating tends to mean that people often let their filters down – the anonymity combined with the impersonalization of online communication often leads to people saying and acting in ways that they likely wouldn’t in person; this is also known as the Penny Arcade Greater Internet Fuckwad Theory. and a lot more people willing to call them out on being creepy.
A couple of days ago, the newest version of these – Creepy White Guys – was brought to my attention by readers.
Some of those presumptions and preconceived notions will be sexual in nature, and people will be basing their opinions on them.
Racial fetishism covers the length and breadth of ethnic groups – there are people who fetishize African-American women, Latinas…
Just because you’re promising to “worship” and “cherish” her doesn’t make you better than the guys who are up front about wanting their geisha fantasy doesn’t make you any better.
Just as with people who elevate geek girls to goddess status, it’s stripping the woman of her individuality and personhood and reducing her to component parts.
We get a double-whammy here: the idea that all Asian women are submissive man-pleasers held in subjugation by chauvinist Asian men who will only abuse them, cheat on them and (super classy move, bro) her from all that and put her up on the pedestal where she deserves to be.
So maybe he’s ignorant but his heart is in the right place, right? Much like the first creeper, this isn’t about her as a person, it’s about his idea of what Asian women are like.