It will feel like “” The fact that you have lots of female friends is also an encouraging sign. So let’s talk about some stuff you can do differently to improve your life and your chances of meeting someone you’d like to be with.While I think you have some particular cultural stuff you’re also trying to sort out, my advice to young straight men who want to meet women is always going to be about subverting the dominant dating paradigm and the sexist culture we grow up with, and it’s always gonna run along the same lines: 1) Read books & blogs, watch films, look at art, and listen to music made by women.Before all that happened, I was an incredible jerk, an arrogant piece of shit with an intellect to match and zero attachments to anyone.I hated the idea of feelings and I shut them out and didn’t do friends (ironically this is when I received most attention from the females).I was an ass, I made an incredible fool of myself, I traumatized my friends and worst of all, I hurt that poor girls feelings.She wasn’t the nicest person and took advantage of me, but I hurt her feelings and I made sure when I came to my senses that I apologized, regardless of what she’d done, I messed up.I’m lonely and very different, I’m eccentric, have eccentric tastes and I’m a lot more mature then most people I meet in most social settings (I’ve been regularly mistaken for 40 when I was 18) I’m also a romantic whose entire cultural upbringing utterly rejects the idea of genders freely mixing and all that cabal. I can out-argue almost anyone and I can debate exceptionally well but I’ve zero social skills that aren’t an argument, sports or one of my passions (which many people do not like) I’m regularly putting my foot in it in casual conversations and I have been told in the past that I am far far too intense.
We all grow up on stories and messages where men go out and do great deeds and they rescue and/or win the love of women. These are the messages you are swimming in, and they are affecting your life.
2) Seek out new activities and build on the interests and passions that you already have in a way that brings you into contact with more people. Some of those will be in your age group/dating pool or know someone who is.
3) When you have the time and energy for it, try out online dating sites to practice dating. 4) Be really nice to yourself and take good care of yourself.
It’s difficult in the uni dorm I’m in, considering most people I meet socially are either drunk (I’m stone cold sober) or do the whole ‘one night stand’ routine which to me is appalling.
The few people I’ve really sparked with are all in relationships.