Even if your parents were part of the middle class back in their home country, their quality of life paled in comparison to the comfort and stability experienced by middle-class American families right after World War II.A little history lesson: In the decades immediately following World War II, pretty much every Asian country was decimated by the war, still in the Stone Age, led by an oppressive dictator who jailed and killed people at will, or some grotesque combination of the three. Your American friends' parents were going on dates to drive-in movies, grabbing milkshakes at the local diner, dancing to Elvis music, and had no troubles finding employment in their teens and early twenties, regardless of whether they went to a good college (or any college at all, for that matter). No wonder they encourage their kids to go on dates, to have an active social life, and to just go to some college but doesn't matter if it's a top-notch one.
(One more tip to remember for your future: Please don't go ass-wild as soon as you start college, as so many of your fellow Asian-American youths do.
My original article portrayed some Asian parents in an extremely negative light, but it never explored their possible motivations.
It presupposed that they were harsh and overbearing, and sternly warned that their parenting style would harm their children.
I think that all your articles on authoritarian parents should be prefaced with a warning to seek professional help.
As someone who grew up with abusive parents and who has undergone professional counselling, I think that the advice you give to abused children to "understand" their parents is extremely damaging.