I want them to be able to focus on their education, their personal development and be able to position themselves to be a great partner and community person. Kenya: I would prefer my children to date at when they finish their first degree. I wish I was less focused on being in a relationship and more focused on university myself and even though I was never in a relationship through all that time, I have to admit I wanted to be.
I will answer your question by asking about the morality of the area the child lives.
The only thing you can do is to educate them on boy/girl relationship and even encourage them to bring their friends home (especially friends of the opposite sex). Have you thought about it that by the time our kids get to the age of dating for them dating or courtship would be such a common thing that holding it with the same value we hold it right now would be total madness to them i think ill wait till i get the kids, then when that time comes ill try and follow the best trend available at that time, touch my principles to it and hope the best comes out of it, i just hope they come to me when they get their first heartbreakcan't just tell them hey 'don't date till you are 99years'. I guess if you are lucky enough to be able to instill those ideas in your children's heads then that would be excellent.
How many of you took your first boy/girlfriend home to mama. it does not work that way..all love freedom...i think the best thing is to exercise caution..educate them about the dos and donts..hard i know.i'm sure many dads and mums never liked you guys dating their daughters...especially when they thought you were not grown enough for it Kenya link=topic=421.msg4375#msg4375 date=1118259126: I would prefer my children to date at when they finish their first degree. I wish I was less focused on being in a relationship and more focused on university myself and even though I was never in a relationship through all that time, I have to admit I wanted to be. Well I do not think there really is a particular age per say other than when they are midway into their teens.
At times, it's the clost monitoring that pushes them away. Always going to church, bible study, sunday school (where as my parents stopped going so I never went).
It can also make them afraid to say anything to you if something should arrise. She was closely monitored to the point where she would say she's coming to my house, they would see her there.