But whether you've been together for one year or five, there are still important discussions couples should have before they put a ring on it. "If not, you need to discuss either the possibility of an open marriage, strategies for keeping the spark alive, or waiting on marriage until the idea of monogamy isn't a death sentence for you." And according to one study, marriage doesn't make you any happier than living together, which may be why some couples choose to wait longer before they get engaged.
According to advice columnist Wendy Atterberry, couples should talk about the following before saying 'I do': "Do you want to sleep with just one person for the rest of your life? However, the older you are when you start cohabitating, the more likely you are to stay together.
Pretty much every person on the planet would say that, when they decide to get married, they want to stay married for life.
Obviously, that doesn’t always happen, but new data found that people are taking one important step that might help them avoid divorce: They’re dating longer. The average couple dates for 17 months before moving in together, lives together for 22 months before getting engaged, and then spends about 20 more months engaged before getting married.
Apparently the majority of people are looking at marriage as a partnership they want to enter into, which is always good to hear.
The number of divorces is at its lowest level since 1971, the survey notes, so clearly we’re on to something.But, if you’re waiting to get married and keep getting pressure from relatives to tie the knot, feel free to point out that it’s totally normal to take your time these days.Now more than ever, couples just aren't in a hurry to get hitched.Women on average are getting married at almost 31 years old, while men are getting married at nearly 33 years old.(Compare that with 22.6 years old for women and 24.6 years old for men in 1971.) Most couples said they’ve also had two serious relationships before they meet The One.