I have always been an advocate of online dating, for a variety of reasons.I think it's a great way to meet people you would never otherwise encounter, see places you may never have heard of and build confidence.Even if a gay girl is open to dating a bi girl, even if she doesn't harbor preconceived conceptions about bisexual women, my guess is that to make things easier and more streamlined, she is going to search for gay women.To further support this assumption, out of the 24 emails I received within the first 12 hours after creating my profile, I was not contacted by one single female.Also, I have had gay and bi friends alike find amazing partners, love and fun on all-inclusive sites.So let's discuss two popular sites, both of which you have probably heard of, and both of which tout millions of users, just waiting for you and a wound from Cupid's arrow.Sure, there are dating sites specifically designed for bisexual women, but they do not have the reach or the users of other, more well-known sites, and frankly, they tend to alienate gay women and straight men.Because, like many other bi girls, I am attracted to gay women and straight men, I want that exposure.
" You and I both know that this is not entirely true, considering how many questions you have to answer to complete your profile (physical characteristics as well as "likes" and "dislikes") and how much of a pain it is to allocate and upload attractive photos of yourself. Immediately it asks if you are a woman or a man, which is fine for me but isn't necessarily an easy question for others who don't identify with one or either gender. Why are you making me decide something that I can't answer so definitively?Now, I know I am just one girl, and this is by no means a well-researched or planned experiment, but I can't help but feel that there are consequences to checking the "bi" box.Again, I tell myself that it should not be this difficult.I know I am not the only one facing this conundrum, because throughout my searches, there were many women who included in their profile summary a clear disclaimer.Whether they had initially checked "bi" or "gay," many women stated, "I identify as queer but picked [___] for lack of better options." So I follow suit.