At the turn of the twentieth century, a guy and girl became romantically involved only if they planned to marry.If a young man spent time at a girls home, family and friends assumed that he intended to propose to her.And if we look at intimacy that way, then most dating relationships are pure icing. In most cases, especially in high school, dating is short term, serving the needs of the moment.People date because they want to enjoy the emotional and even physical benefits of intimacy without the responsibility of real commitment.Why am I talking to you about shopping carts when this book is about dating?Well, I recall my bad luck with grocery carts because many times Ive experienced a similar battle of wills with dating.
Long before Seventeen magazine ever gave teenagers tips on dating, people did things very differently.The pastor telling the story saw both of them years later at a high school reunion. When I see him, I remember it all so vividly, Jenny cried. When I see her, the hurt comes back, he told his former youth pastor. When the youth minister had finished telling this story, you could have heard a pin drop. But he gave no alternative that afternoon, Evidently the pastor thought the couple's only mistake was giving in to temptation.He seemed to think that Eric and Jenny should have had more respect for each other and more self-control.Eric and Jenny probably had good intentions, but they founded their relationship on our cultures defective attitudes and patterns for romance. Dating leads to intimacy but not necessarily to commitment Jayme was a junior in high school; her boyfriend, Troy, was a senior.Unfortunately, even in their adulthood they continue to reap the consequences. Troy was everything Jayme ever wanted in a guy, and for eight months they were inseparable.