What you do is not as important as how she may respond to you.
The sarcasm that once brought him a jolt of joy now cut him apart. One of the difficulties with addressing the emotional abuse of men is that things today are so politically polarized it’s hard to have a calm discussion about it.
More than once his wife called him in an incoherent rage about something he didn’t understand. Feminists have worked so hard over the last fifty years to turn men from ogres into enlightened companions that they feel any concession that women are also capable of abuse is a betrayal of the cause.
Strangest of all, she began to lie about certain things yet seemed convinced she was telling the truth. Because you can’t predict her responses, you become hyper vigilant to any change in her mood or potential outburst, which leaves you in a perpetual state of anxiety and possibly fear. There is a massive infrastructure in academia, politics, and pop culture that serves to support women who are abused by men.
This goes for men and women that have been in a abusive relationship.
An abused person reacts differently to stress, affection, commitment and intimacy, some lash out or even withdraw.