I had always assumed that man-drought was the reason that most of us developed a passionate crush on a teacher at some point in our school career.But having spoken to women who were raised in slightly less bizarre circumstances, I’ve revised that assumption.When you’re a teenager it doesn’t take much to make you feel sophisticated.Drinking, smoking and the ability to drive feel like the trifecta of adulthood, and if you’ve got even two of the three, you’re impressive.He’s wrong about lots of other things, but the storyline of a young woman falling for an older man is an accurate one.I just wish that for once the older man would brush her off and encourage her to go off and find someone a little closer to her age to explore with, at least until she reaches the status of a legal adult.Among the biggest reasons that he likes you is because you're young.Yes, he might be into you because you like the same bands and you act "mature for your age." (Has he ever told you that you have "an old soul?
Similarly, Chloe Grace Moretz is starring in the grim looking I Love You, Daddy. The upshot of these films is broadly speaking the same.
It’s because they don’t realise that they’re acting from a position of power.
I draw a line in my head between the older men I fancied at a teenager who resolutely refused to engage with it, and those who indulged it or even courted it. Older men at parties who made comments about my body or came on to me. And I wish they’d known that I didn’t fancy them because they were interesting or attractive, but because they seemed powerful to me. They were sad men who were dazzled by youngness and flattered by my attention.
When we ignore the problem, we allow it to flourish.
I attended an all girl Catholic boarding school where there was, as you can imagine, sweet FA in terms of male attention to be had.