Topping their list of questions is, “How do you know when you’re in love with somebody?
” They are also genuinely curious about their parents’ courtship and marriage (“Mom, did you fall in love with Dad at first sight?
“The number-one benefit is safety,” says the father of two grown children.
Going out in mixed groups also gives boys and girls an opportunity to just enjoy one another’s company, without the awkwardness and sexual tension that can intrude upon a one-to-one date. Many of us feel that way when we imagine our son or daughter disappearing into the night arm in arm with a young lady or a young man. Eagar advises not allowing single dating before age sixteen.
Acknowledge your teen’s pain but assure her that she will be happy again.
The recent trend among early adolescents is for boys and girls to socialize as part of a group.
If you see schoolwork start to suffer and friendships fall by the wayside, it is reasonable to restrict the number of times Romeo and Juliet can rendezvous during the school week.
High-school romances tend to have limited life spans.
Moms and dads can aid the healing process by being generous with their time, patience and hugs.
A little extra sensitivity helps, too, for in this situation, knowing what not to say is as important as choosing the right words.