At the same time, you have to admit that the thought of going out with a handsome stranger sounds intriguing …
especially if someone special has already caught your eye!
The truth is, you and your “almost-ex” are more like strangers than spouses.
You only see each other when you’re dropping off the kids. For all practical purposes, it feels as if you’re already divorced. Your friends are all telling you that you should “get back on the horse,” and start dating again.
Adding a new partner to the mix could make it even tougher for children to cope.
While courts generally do not allow the wishes of children to dictate custody decisions, they might take an older child’s preference into consideration, especially if the parent’s new partner is creating an uncomfortable atmosphere at home.
After going through a divorce for months (or years) it’s no wonder that you long to spend an evening talking to someone who doesn’t scream at you, and can talk about something other than whether you really need that much money to take care of the kids. Even if your spouse hasn’t paid attention to you in decades, the minute you start dating someone else, he will often become jealous, angry, and upset (go figure! That makes negotiating a settlement peacefully 1000 times harder. In some states, committing adultery can affect whether you get spousal support.
Once you and your spouse make the decision to divorce, you might think it is an acceptable time to embark on a new chapter and start dating.It is also possible for the new relationship to be considered in the division of property or spousal support determinations, potentially impacting the amount the dating spouse may receive if he or she is living with a new partner.If a spouse is dating but not living with a new partner, any expenditures due to the new relationship (gifts, vacations, other spending on the new partner, etc.) could also be factored into property division.Dating before a divorce is finalized can have a number of effects on the proceedings.Even in no-fault divorce states, it is still possible for marital misconduct to be factored into decisions depending on the circumstances involved.