Present your best qualities, but also disclose your unattractive features.Present your unattractive features positively, as a conversation starter.At first this feels like going to the Humane Society to pick out a puppy... E.g., one young woman described herself as "honest, intelligent, with a heart of gold." Her rap sheet says that she's serving 25 years for homicide.(She was a waitress, so maybe a rude customer didn't leave her a tip. ) I've read hundreds of personal ads from incarcerated women.A polished, professional-sounding ad makes you look thirty IQ points smarter.If you're in a big city, especially in the north or west, describe your looks and your money in your personal ad.E.g., an incarcerated woman could write that she committed a crime when she was immature, but prison has helped her grow and now she's sorry for what she'd done.This leads to asking about the crime, what prison has taught her, etc. Disclose an unattractive feature in a way that shows your good character.
One of my hobbies is reading personal ads from incarcerated women, and then looking up their rap sheets on the World Wide Web.Ironically, pointing out your faults makes your faults less visible, while hiding your faults makes them more visible.A magazine writer had less-than-great experiences with several big online dating websites.If personal ad websites had feedback, you could select only individuals with a gold star.Then you could skip the ads and go straight to the reviews.