This book is terrible if you’re looking for ACTION items, but it is a wonderful non-fiction read and can greatly assist you in seeing what is possible.
Also, some of the attitudes described of the historical figures are amazing. If you are interested in real, intuitive and actionable advice about dating, women and relationships then I urge you to get it now. In the book, I outline the 7 steps to getting a lasting, healthy relationship with a woman you are truly attracted to.
Today’s rules are a little more user-friendly – but some of them may surprise you. Many profiles on dating websites start with statements like: “I’m no good at this kind of thing”. If you put yourself down, you won’t sound attractively self-effacing. The aim of the online dating game is to catch the eye of someone you have lots in common with.
You do this by being original and, above all, specific about your interests.
It’s very unusual for someone to find a good match in their first few attempts.
See it all as experience, not as proof that you’re a loser (or that everyone else is a loser).
They’re looking for someone with brown eyes, short hair, between 5’10” and 6′, from west London, and so on. First, they make the writer sound like a control freak.
Second, they sound like an exact description of the writer’s ex.
Six messages in total – not each – is enough to know whether you want a date. Chances are that you won’t fancy each other, or that only one of you will fancy the other. It’s easy to lose faith when your first few dates don’t work out.
Instead of saying that you like sunsets, mention the best sunset you’ve ever seen.
State which tracks you enjoy, and your favourite place to see your friends.
By writing this in your profile, you’re telling people that you’re not smart or self-aware enough to write it yourself.
Most grown-ups have a history of exes, hang-ups and maybe a nervous breakdown or two. They know that you have a past, but they don’t want to hear about it. Some online dating profiles read like shopping lists.