On actually being in a relationship with him, I realized I’d assigned far too much weight to what I knew, or thought I knew, about his first marriage.
Even if it told me something about his relationship with his first wife, it told me nothing about what relationship with him would look like — or whether we had the capacity for long-term commitment.
Those women are usually well educated, attractive and smart.
They are not after the Green Card or passports as you might think. Normally, women from Russia are looking for healthy, financially secure, attractive guys. ) are dreaming to get married to homeless, ugly men with bad character and health problems who struggle with everyday survival.
Yes, you can find a woman 30 years younger, and even can marry her, but your marriage will rarely last for more than 2 years - the necessary time for receiving a Green Card.
The majority of Russian women seeking western men are NOT desperate to find foreign husbands or immigrate from Russia.
I understand wanting to know whether a potential match has been married.
I care about that, too, because it forms part of who a person is.
But many use the answer as a way to weed out potential dates.
A previous marriage, no matter how short, is the relationship equivalent of earning a college degree. Having been married doesn’t mean you’re any better or worse at relationships than someone who’s never tied the knot.
If you’ve been married before, the theory goes, you must have the ability to commit. On its own, the word “divorced” conveys only two things: 1) that the person was, at some point, united with another person in a legally sanctioned arrangement; and 2) it ended, and not because one of the partners died.
When men learn that I wed later in life and had a marriage even Hollywood would call “brief,” some assume I’m commitment-phobic, that I stink at relationships, or that I just wanted to get married before I turned 40.
A more thoughtful examination of my relationship history would show that I had three long-term relationships from 1992 to 2008. Another lasted from 1996 to 2001 and was ultimately more significant than my marriage.