Since it took you only 2 months (about 160 hours) to find this suboptimal relationship, you have essentially lost the chance for about 12 other potential candidates!
(It’s not as black and white as this as we’ll discuss in the where to find a husband / wife section) Of course, this doesn’t mean you won’t enter into relationships that do satisfy your list and find out later that your list isn’t quite complete.
Consider someone who goes from suboptimal relationship to suboptimal relationship, each lasting 2 years with 2 months in between.
Say normally, you have 80 hours a month to socialize with people, but in a relationship (since you need to spend alone time together), you only have 20 hours to socialize with other people.
Please be aware though that I am currently in love, so my analysis may be somewhat biased.After all, how can something be a problem if it isn’t relevant to something you want?Knowing the outcome you want also lets you know what exactly constitutes a solution to the problem.Think about how many people you meet through the course of a year or two.By devoting most of your time to a relatively hopeless relationship, your deprive yourself of the chance of exploring other relationships that might give you what you want!