If someone comes to see me for therapy, they receive my undivided attention whether I find them interesting or likable. If I was too busy sending out flirty signals, I would miss getting to know someone in a truly authentic way. It is likely not nearly as personal as you think it is. I expect people to be guarded starting out, and I tell them that I not only it. Be willing to explore the relationship, rather than make immediate demands on it.When writing a treatment plan for a client, I ask the following questions to help formulate goals. If anything, dating is even more anxiety provoking than starting therapy. Countertransference is a therapeutic word first coined by Freud in correspondence with Jung in 1909.The dating world had become a very different world since my years as a teenager.
If I committed to a date with someone, even a meeting for coffee, I was committing my time and attention to that person. They are focused on the one problem that they want relief from, but don’t necessarily think that other information is pertinent. Or they are embarrassed about these other issues and not willing to share with me right away.Most individuals give off certain signals demonstrating interest and availability in a dating environment.I was told by more than one person that I did’t engage in any of them.Instead of hiding who you are, I suggest you be exactly who you are — because that is the person you want others to see and know.I hadn’t thought of myself as a dating therapist until I realized I talk to people about dating in therapy all the time.