Unfortunately, the gay dating pool is viciously competitive. Either play the gay dating game or get out of the other gay guys' way! The goal is for the single gay community to know you're in circulation.2. Going to the same coffee shop, grocery store and gym leads to the same scenery and the same results. When you hide from your truth, it won't set you free. " Constantly in a tailspin with the same old audio tapes playing in your head? Gay dating is a chore that eventually leads to feeling depressed and lonely ... Even if you feel like a fool, you'll rack up the frequent heartbreak points that will eventually pay for an all-expenses-paid trip to true love. The more you look to others to validate your existence, your value and your self-worth, the deeper the hole gets for you to lay in and have sand kicked in your face.So, instead of fighting over the newest man meat on Grindr, I recommend these practical tips for gay men:1. Plus, being honest with yourself is a great launching pad for honesty in your relationship. Do you always say: "Gay dating is such a chore," or, "Gay men just want sex," or "Every gay guy I meet only wants to talk about themselves? "For example, "Gay dating is such a chore." So What? "If it's not fun, then I might as well just stay home." So what? or at least that's what the replay of the tape your listening to is saying. Finally, let the fun-loving gay dater in you out to play. Just because "Bryce" dates like a mad man doesn't mean he's more datable than you.He had just the right amount of scruff and big, dark eyes that I could already feel myself melting into. After pretending not to watch the juggling boy for an hour, my friend and I went to warm up in a nearby coffee shop but I couldn’t get him out of my head.I scribbled out a note with my number on it, gathered my courage, and went back out the park and tapped him on the shoulder.So be open to someone who’s a little shorter than you thought you could be into, for example.They just may have other qualities that more than make up for the missing inches. Saying “yes” is something I learned in Argentina that has really, really helped me in new social situations ever since.
All of my major relationships (and most of the minor ones, too) came after I took a bold step.
But trust me, those misses are so worth it when you get a “hit.” Also, it’s a total rush to be bold in social situations.
There’s a common understanding among hetero singles that men are supposed to approach women — and not the other way around. This kind of non-verbal communication makes it clear (to anyone who’s not oblivious, that is) that you’re open to being approached just like your headphones on and head down communicate that you’re not into being approached. I’m totally a homebody so I understand the allure of PJs, binge-watching, and a good bottle of red, but you’re not going to meet your dreamboat that way.
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For the most part, gay men are like everyone else on the dating scene. Like their straight counterparts, gay men also desire connection, companionship and commitment. That is, if you've been doing the same thing and expecting a different result, then change detergents, add some fabric softener and try a new way of putting yourself out there. Regardless of your perspective, being honest with yourself all along is my point. Crazy as it sounds, one of these three "f-words" could lead you to Mr. If you can't win them by being fearless, then be a little foolish, and let your heart lead you. Check out the merchandise, evaluate the functionality, weigh the benefits, but for crying out loud, stop comparing yourself to everyone around you!