I was way too tired and a little bit tipsy, to answer that one seriously.“Yep, and guess what? But in Beijing, it is odd and frustrating to have to tell people: yes, a lot of us have had sex outside of marriage, we drink and smoke, we have gay friends, we might be gay ourselves, and yes, we have occasionally had our minds messed with by more than “weed lassi”.
It had been a gloriously blurry fortnight – one that had let me have all of the fun without having to deal with the mess. “After a point, you get sick of everyone leaving.”I already understand what he means, how real the sense of exhaustion is. There is a part of me that takes unconscious pleasure in being exotic for the first time. But there is also a part of me which cringes intensely at being fetishised because of my race.
It all came to a crashing halt when Kevin asked Sara if she would like to meet him sometime. This particular instance was exactly like the last three – Kevin never heard from any of them again.
Tantan has the notorious reputation of being an app which Chinese girls use only to talk to expats to practise their English. The fact that it does not require VPN to use has ensured a robust user base for OKCupid.
English-language schools – not all of them legitimate – continue to mushroom, and while the expat population is primarily formed by English teachers, it also includes IT professionals, entrepreneurs, and guidance counsellors who prep harried Chinese children and their still-more-harried parents for universities abroad.
Most are from European countries and the United States and predominantly white.