“I thought the recent strange behaviour and care with his phone was because he was planning a big surprise for our anniversary. “It was too complicated a set of feelings; the fury, the devastation, the rehashing of our lives together in the middle of the night, questioning every lovely moment we’d shared.
It was a blur, but I emerged eight months later a stone heavier and feeling like I needed to do something to move on.” So Elizabeth tried online dating and, while she says it certainly had its frustrating moments, after eight months she met Andrew, 51 and they are planning to move in together in time for Christmas.
“You can get to know each other a little bit by emailing one another before deciding whether you’d like to meet up,” she says.
“So long as you are careful about meeting in a public place, this can be a fun and relaxed way to meet new people.
(Just don't start binge drinking if it's not going well.) Have an exit strategy in place before the date begins, knowing if you do feel a spark you can always schedule a second date.
"It could be something as mundane as 'I have a car appointment at so I need to leave by 10,' " says Stan Tatkin, Psy D, author of .
But research shows that online dating is now the number-one way to meet people for the over 50s, and as the number of users aged over 45 overtake those under 25, experts say it’s time we started embracing technology when it comes to our love lives.
Putting yourself out there can be incredibly intimidating, and no more so than when you’re coming out of a long-term relationship.
It's also smart to meet at a public place and let at least one of your friends know where you'll be. Vodka Martini Talk of the ex is off-limits—at least for the first time out.
It's tempting to go there, especially if you're both divorced.
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"About 20% of the men I've considered dating weren't who they said they were; they lied about their job or even current relationships," says Tiffany Beverlin, a divorcee who founded Dreams Recycled.com, a website that helps you sell items from your marriage.