"It can be very frustrating." Perkins believes that she's learned a thing or two about resilience from being a military spouse. Now, try doing it a half a dozen times or more over the course of a marriage.
Di Silverio compares the fear of her husband getting hurt -- or worse -- in the field to a constant headache, "always lurking, keeping you a bit more on edge than you would normally be." When her husband was deployed to Iraq, her daughters were 3 and 5 and she was working as a deputy group commander.
“Before I could plan my son's fifth birthday party next month, my husband had to put a request in to make sure he would not be put on duty that weekend and miss it,” Perkins said.
Her husband's schedule is set only a month in advance and it's very hard for him to change it.
"In general, we found that more United States military than nonmilitary men and women marry people of different ethnicities and races." The services create an opportunity for interaction among groups in foreign countries and members of various racial and ethnic backgrounds.
This situation enables those serving to socialize with and date individuals who live near the base and others who live in the country where troops are stationed.