Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone.
So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.
It’s always helpful when you can reduce a process down to a science, using a specific formula for success, and Julie Spira at Your Tango has one that she says will help you craft the perfect intro note. Spira advises not starting messages with “Hey,” even though so many of us do it, but she says to try “Hi” instead. You’ll note that hi actually does sound more friendly than hey, which sounds like you’re two pathetic encounters away from giving up on dating altogether.) Spiro says that spelling and grammar are very important in these messages (as we all know), and she seems to imply that in general we should treat these messages more seriously and with more respect than we generally do. When I think about messages that I’ve received that I’ve been excited to respond to, they generally adhere to these guidelines.
A friend of mine has a similar formula for intro messages that goes: 1) say something specific about something you saw in the person’s profile. I’ll add that I think it’s important not to over flatter the person you’re writing to, or to make the message too much about their appearance.
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But I want to lay these out first -- because they're so vital to solid message writing -- and we'll get into the "whys" and the "hows" in a moment.I was going to write about something else today -- I have a couple of big-concept posts I've been meaning to write up and get around to -- but, heck, the last post I put up was a big-concept post so I figured let's have a quick breather from that and get something a little lighter up first. I've been all too guilty of this myself -- sending super-long messages.This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.The study authors also delved into the question of which features make a dating site a good fit for seniors.You can read an article about the ongoing study by clicking here. Complaints have been filed that certain sites continue to charge monthly fees after a member cancels. See our updated Best Senior Dating Sites How to set up your online dating profile in 4 easy steps 11 ways to quit lurking and write your online dating profile.