Granted, for the most part, folks do well by staying in their lanes, so to speak.He’s decided to date women he believes will date and accept him, “broke” and all—and acceptance is a big part of a healthy loving relationship.If your friend consistently throws a wonderful gathering time and time again, then tell him so.You are acknowledging his time, expense, social skills, and his uncanny ability to make his guests feel comfortable and allow them to enjoy themselves. When you give this compliment to another, you are sharing your thoughts about his ability to persever, to be adventurous, or to be unique and consistent in his actions. Whatever it is he does, he keeps finding ways to impress or astonish you. You are exhibiting leadership qualities which others notice and for which you are commended.This compliment could be said to almost anyone as long as its spoken with sincerity. Not all people are great leaders so revel in someone taking notice of your values and your ability to motivate, inspire and guide others.When you raise the bar, you are setting new (and higher) standards.You might compliment a male co-worker on his new suit or a friend on the fragrance of her perfume.
A woman isn’t always disinterested in you because of your pay grade.I’m not going to sit here and pretend like we all don’t want that ride or die mate.But perhaps, if you are running into women who aren’t interested in dating you due to your financial status, maybe you should work on becoming a bit more stable in that department.You know, stable employment, a kind and generous heart, someone who is funny, intelligent, consistent and faithful, etc. She wants a dude who has it all together.” Whenever my friend gets in this mode—which I still have yet to determine if jealousy or a self-esteem issue is the culprit—I cringe.Then he went into self-deprecating mode: “See, that woman right there [insert random acquaintance he knows] is my type of woman. It’s like a combination of complaining, not being confident enough in what he brings to the table and judging women based on their preferences equate to this annoyance of a concoction. In other words, he counts himself out of the race for her heart before the “Go! Each and every time I ask him to elaborate on why he feels this way, it all goes back to how she looks, how she dresses and the life that she appears to live from the outside looking in.