It was all so banal, so pleasant, so utterly devoid of irony or character or anything interesting. Because while my religion is foundational, from then on in, I am still an individual with my own tastes, likes, dislikes and sense of humour.
Having a religion in common with someone doesn't actually guarantee you have anything else in common.
Way to state the obvious and waste your digital calling card. He was due some leave from his unspecified nautical job in three months, and could we “meet up and see how things progress? There were plenty more from those who clearly weren't a good match – guys in the 50 plus age bracket, guys who lived in Australia, guys who were saving their first kiss for marriage.
There was also a serious sense of humour failure, as if the men on there were worried that “being a bit funny” is the work of Satan and no self-respecting Christian would dare make a joke. At least Public Praying Man made it to the dating stage – but his penchant for saying grace out loud made me feel, as many of the men's profiles did, that I wasn't Christian enough to go out with a Christian.
She said I was out of luck.” Sure enough, when you check out the forum on free Muslim dating site, Helahel.com, an alarming number of posts are from young men (or so they claim), essentially advertising themselves as rent boys. My friend was on JDate and said it was fun.” Some of the issues she's come across are similar – lots of messages from people in the older age bracket, and guys who are based in wildly inconvenient locations, like Israel or America.There's also the sense that some men are using their profile to advertise themselves as the perfect Jewish husband-in-waiting: “Lots of them are just looking for a wife, ASAP – they post pictures of them with their nieces and nephews, basically saying, 'look what a great dad I'll be'.You start to feel like you're looking at everyone who's left on the shelf.” Muslims using an internet dating site, such as and Muslim Mingle, I’ve heard that the problems can get even more unsettling. AMARATES PLEASE MARRY ME IF ANY OLD LADY OR GIRL WANT YOUNG BOY FOR FULL LIFE WITH 50 YEARS AGRIMENT [sic]” reads one post.As well as the issues of “he's too pious,” or “he's just a bit boring,” there can be far greater worries about whether potential suitors are simply weighing up your worth based on your ability to secure them a visa. The whole experience raises a bigger question: how do you find someone of faith to share your life with when you are in a minority?