Often, finance, children and other circumstances prevent any simple solutions.But, I also notice that many describe their own addiction of sorts – to the partner.The working out of those specifics might be where your attention is going to be productive. Al-Anon is not for everyone in your situation, but those who do find it helpful would probably say that it’s the repeated attendance that makes it work.There is another general rule in making a wrenching decision. That is, whichever course is more reversible might be considered first. Loneliness and anxiety, among other troubles, are almost universally difficult for partners of alcoholics. This entry was posted on Tuesday, December 2nd, 2008 at pm and is filed under Addiction, Couples-Marriage, Transition.Choice 2 would be that you leave in a way that magnifies the potential for a negative outcome, say by being mean, impulsive or passive, neglecting the care of your self, your social network, financial interests and so on.
But if she doesn’t you have to ask her about it some time.
Most of my friends tell me to leave her, and my family tells me to stick it out. Note: I first wrote this answer as a way to talk about methods to approach tough dilemmas, and since that time it has grown into the forum you see now.
I’ve been to an Al-Anon meeting but it’s not enough.
That’s because being friends with her while she stays with her new boyfriend is not good for your emotional and mental health.
After you have spent enough time with her and she still haven’t made a decision, you have to be upfront about your intentions and tell her what you want.