There was no reason for Adam Hilarie to believe anything but the obvious: He had just been on a promising first date with a pretty girl.Hilarie had met Hailey Rose Bustos on Plenty Of Fish, which bills itself as the largest dating site in the world.Experts say people are getting better at spotting many of the Internet's longtime scams: They're suspicious of unsolicited emails from the Nigerian royal family, and they ignore the romantic entreaties of beautiful lovestruck women who sound vaguely like badly programmed algorithms. And on dating sites, would-be scammers have a trump card: People are irrational when they're looking for love."Romance is by definition quite irrational," Jack Levin, co-director of Northeastern University's Brudnick Center on Violence and Conflict, told The Post."When it came to sports, he was always the number one pick," Jackson said. We don't put our kids in them." Nobody was more important to Hilarie than his daughter, Lajaya, he said. "That was his world." Jackson said he didn't know how long his brother and Bustos had been talking on Plenty Of Fish."He did a little amateur boxing, but he was one of the biggest Florida State fans. He estimated Hilarie had been on the site less than two months, because that's when Hilarie broke up with his last girlfriend.When you're dealing with the Internet, you don't need the resources that you might need in an interpersonal relationship, or face-to-face.
"Half of the profiles, they don't even put their real name," Jackson said.
The next night, her real intentions became clear, police told The Washington Post.
Bustos, 18, brought three men with her to Hilarie's place, including two career criminals on probation for violent felonies. When Hilarie, 27, responded to the knock on the door, the men overpowered him and dashed inside, police said. "Hilarie was begging for his life, he was not putting up any kind of fight, and was telling them that he had a 5-year-old daughter," according to arrest reports obtained by the Orlando Sentinel.
In rare instances, victims - like Hilarie - can lose their lives.
Still, stories exist across the country of people looking for love but finding violent criminals instead.