Anything less than chastity is settling – and you were made for more, so please don’t settle for less. We’re not good at this whole being-upfront-about-feelings things, because we’ve grown up in a world where whoever cares the least wins.The Situation: It starts in kindergarten, with playground shoves and pulling hair (that means he likes you? So how on earth are we actually supposed to get it together?The Solution: Chastity is not primarily a no to sex, but a yes to God’s plan for sex and our sexuality.His will is that sex would be about life and love in the commitment of marriage – not that we would use another person for temporary pleasure.If I tell a joke to a girl and she laughs, does that mean I’ve messed with her emotional chastity by inadvertently flirting?Oh no, he sneezed and I said ‘God bless you’ – I hope he doesn’t think I have a crush on him! Be friends with your friends and pursue the women you want to date (one at a time, of course).
And just as often they carry us into a crazy over-analysis of every text ever exchanged ever.
If you’re not having sex with your girlfriend but you are watching porn, that isn’t chastity. She Says: We’re not just bodies – we’re bodies, hearts, minds, and souls.
So it’s important to remember that what we do with our bodies (the way we dress, talk, joke around, date, kiss, etc.) impacts our souls.
Be clear and kind in the break-up process, but for the love of God, don’t put all the blame on Him.
God is not some sort of cushion you can use to soften the blow of a break-up.