But if I were to peg an age, it would probably be around 30—old enough to know yourself, but young enough to grow with someone.• I think the best time to get married is when you are in a good place emotionally, professionally, personally, financially because by then it should be clear to you that you are able to do great on your own, but life is just that much sweeter married to this one person.We might even see a parallel between indulging in the cocaine-like high of falling in love with a string of unsuitable partners, and taking ecstasy, because both decrease the range of maximum pleasure capacity in all future cases. New York, NY: Touchstone Press (a division of Simon & Schuster), p. Especially if they choose to have multiple children which would increase her age at birth for the later ones.
This bouquet toss experience was illuminated when I reviewed responses to the open-ended question “At what age or stage of life do you feel is the optimal time to get married and why?
I was attending a close friend’s wedding at the Harvard Club of New York, an elegant “Harvard on Harvard” marriage.
When the bride threw the bouquet, the cluster of single women immediately jumped away from it and the unclaimed bouquet landed on the floor.
Demographers Teresa Castro-Martin and Larry Bumpass assert that “the inverse relationship between age at marriage and the likelihood of marital disruption is among the strongest and most consistently documented in the literature.”*** Dating for a sufficiently lengthy period allows us to establish a stronger sense of self and to define life goals and priorities. Example: Average 10 month engagement period, so pre-engagement dating for 2.75 years engagement period of 0.85 years = pre-marriage relationship duration of 3.6 years.
A later age of marriage and a more lengthy courtship explains in some part the high levels of marital satisfaction reported within my well educated sample of respondents.