All addicts have a reduced threshold to self-soothe – meaning to be with self to process emotional disruption and insecurities.
The ability to self-soothe requires emotional maturity and an “inner solidness,” which is reliant on healthy emotional development.
The very definition of addiction is: when an urge or compulsion has emotional control over you.
Narcissists feel powerless to control their urge to self avoid and seek outside attention to try to offset inner pain.
Narcissistic supply is a drug – it provides an emotional life force for the narcissist.
Addictions are a short term answer to being able to relieve oneself from emotional or physical pain.
If an individual does not have the inner resources, then they believe a sense of “self” be provided by the outside world.
This is the basis of all addictive behaviour – a separation from self-worth, self-love and the ability to inwardly emotionally navigate life healthily.Melanie Tonia Evans is an international narcissistic abuse recovery expert.She is an author, radio host, and founder of Quanta Freedom Healing and The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program.The False Self is dependent on gaining validation that confirms its existence.This external validation is sought to avoid the narcissist sinking inside him or herself and feeling the truth of how the narcissist feels about his or her existence,“The real me is a defective self that I despise and need to avoid at all costs.” The narcissist’s inner being (the True Self) is damaged.