“It’s an emotional and physical defense mechanism to distort the way we see things from time to time,” says Simon Rego, Psy.
D., director of psychology training at Montefiore Medical Center.
It sounds like a total bore, but the best way to climb out of the red is to create a budget so you’re living within your means.
Attack credit cards and loans first, even if it means paying them off little by little, Sese says.
Match is one of the best dating sites for singles in their 40s and up.
“So many people equate true love with finding a perfect partner, but the world is full of imperfect people,” says Cristalle Sese, Psy. Others may be less picky but are hesitant to completely open themselves up to love and expose themselves and what they think are their flaws.
“Some believe, ‘If I show myself and get rejected, then that will mean I’m worthless,’ and they convince themselves that they’re destined for loneliness to avoid that potential hurt,” Sese says.
Honesty may be the best policy, but let’s face it, everyone’s pants are on fire from time to time.
And we’re not only fudging the truth with our friends, family, and coworkers—we’re also deceiving ourselves.