There’s an enormous difference between, “Dammit, I feel lonely and at a loose end and wish were out having fun, too” and curling up in a little ball and crying your eyes out because you feel so abandoned, alone and unloved. Relationships are forever and always about individuals humans and the different ways we merge and change and bump against each other.The healthiest of people have down times and the best relationships do, too. I do not believe that there is any great value in white-knuckling it through a romantic relationship.I had the opportunity to fly the new Ozone Alpina3 (ML) in Raglan, NZ, thanks to Matt Taggart of Ozone on March 6th.We flew their nice local coastal site and upon arrival noticed the wind picking up so we got prepped quickly.In the meantime, Rob Whittal launched what I think was an Ozone Rapido and was playing around in the strong wind considerable lower than the A3 (which is real climber).It took me about fifteen minutes to get the A3 down.So what do you do when you’re really not okay with poly and your partner is unhappy monogamous? I’ve been accused, since reviving the Polyamorous Misanthrope column, of seeing relationships as disposable. Suck it up and deal to make sure the kids are properly taken care of and nurtured? I will point out that doesn’t require a romantic relationship. But it is a good way to happiness in the long run, no kidding.I’m increasingly of the opinion that the only good ways to condu a relationship are going for the “win-win” or the “no deal”. It doesn’t happen by making yourself do or be what you are not. When I say “no deal” I don’t mean anger, bitterness or hostility. Some people, no matter how much they love each other, aren’t compatible in the long run.
I’m also not saying that twinges of discomfort are reasons to drop a relationship.
By the time I launched, the wind speed was hitting 20-25 km/hr, so I picked a lull and pulled the glider up.
The wind was strong but the glider responded well to my movements and I was airborne in a few smooth seconds.
If you can find a way to be happy and fulfilled with one partner poly and the other not, that’s wonderful! Believe it or not, you can and do get over it and into creating a life for yourself where you’re not curled into a ball weeping several nights a month.
Coaches Corner - the local forecast is predicting perfect winds until 2 pm, when it blows up to 25 kph.