The embryonic stage of your courtship, relationship or whatever you call it when you first start dating is quintessentially the most important time.
While you’re excited to have met someone new or actually moving on to a new part of your life, it’s a time where you have to make sure you don’t ruin things by getting too far ahead of yourself.
Here’s why: The root of all pain like this comes from your imagination and an uncertainty about what to do.
It’s also when the other person feel this exceeding neediness from you, which leads the the suspicion that you have much less to offer than what you’ll be getting.
If that is the case, then of course the relationship would feel like the center of the world to you, as you are deriving most of your identity from your partner.
It would also explain why you would feel very hurt and angry when your partner leaves, since he/she took away all that stuff you were getting.
Aren’t those situations of you being alone completely unlikely though? In fact, outside of very involved relationships, you are alone most of the time.
Whenever you are focusing on yourself and don’t notice other people, it’s the same as if you were alone.