He has not had sex with her for over a year, and she does not want to go back to her country. We doubt he is keeping her as up to date about you, as he “appears” to be keeping you informed about her. If you pursue this romance you are implicitly endorsing a model for behavior in life and love.So there would seem to be a high probability that deceit is in his behavioral repertoire. Take his story at face value and we notice his proclivity to weasle his way around problems — rather than deal with them head on. So be sure you understand the model you are acting out. We see each other many hours a day, we love each others’ company, but I am worried about the wife. But it seems to us that he certainly must be lying to someone — at least to his wife. He bought his wife over from another country, then she changed.Why not reach out to the people you like and trust, and let them know that you are looking to meet some new (older) men? You won’t meet them unless you ask friends for connections.
One of the best places to meet a good man is to go where he is doing what he loves.Interesting men are out in the world doing interesting things, not waiting patiently for you to appear in their lives.So, the secret is to do those things that you love, knowing that the men you will meet there at a minimum like doing what you do. Failing that direct approach, here are a few other ideas for finding these mysterious older men.I also met a close male friend on a plane – and we’ve kept in touch for 10 years.Don’t be afraid to reach out to older men that you meet during your travels.