Yes, I’d be happy to share the best friends with benefits rules so you can hook up without things being complicated.
It’s certainly possible, but it requires that you look at things honestly and set clear boundaries for yourself. (aka: how to have a friends with benefits arrangement without drama, difficulty, or disaster) This means no neighbors, no co-workers, no ex-boyfriends, no guys that are currently your friend and no people within your social circle.
This rule is what makes the difference between a fun, light, satisfying FWB situation…
and a messy, disastrous, regretful relationship situation.
FWB arrangements are super clean and simple: a relationship purely for sexual enjoyment and exploration. FWB arrangements are best thought of as a bonus to be enjoyed in your life, but not something you need to hold on to or possess… but you practice safe sex and educate yourself on what it means to have safe sex.
It is essential that you understand the risks involved with sex and protect yourself accordingly.
Yes, I understand that this isn’t what women say they typically want, but I just got out of a long, difficult relationship and I don’t want to dive right back into commitment again.
and when it ends, it needs to be clean without loose ends (for you or for him).
Now, I understand that some of you might be reading this article specifically because you are sleeping with a friend and you want it to become something more.
You’ll still benefit from reading this article, but read this article as well: In our modern society, it is common for people to want to add something to their life to fill some sort of emotional void.
This is a recipe for disaster in a friends with benefits type of relationship since it’s easy to slide from wanting to fill a void into making a friends with benefits arrangement into something more. and whole, then your focus needs to be on living your life where you’re 100% in touch with your grounded, stable, ever-present sense of being OK you bring any sort of relationship into the picture (whether it’s a friends with benefits arrangement or any other type of relationship dynamic). You’re not looking for (and you won’t have) a “happy ending”…