Many years ago, a guy friend said something that completely changed the way I viewed sex and relationships.He said: “Before a girl sleeps with a guy, she has all the power.You don’t often see a woman plotting ways to sleep with many men and wiggle out of any sort of commitment, or a man trying to figure out how to get a girl to just commit and want only him.Just as there is a stigma against women who sleep with a lot of men, there is a stigma against men who are super into commitment and invest way too soon.He’s not as responsive to you, he’s not as excited by you, and it feels like you’re losing him … If not, you might make one of the major relationship-killing mistakes that many women unknowingly make. They were still in the casual getting to know one another phase.Read this now so you don’t fall into that trap: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This... He hadn’t shown any level of investment (I know going on three Saturday night dates in a row with a guy can feel like he’s investing, but it’s not so).He never texted her earlier than 11pm and while he was nice and sweet and all that when they hung out, all he wanted was to fool around (and sometimes order in food and fool around).
Another nice date with pleasant conversation and enjoying each other’s company (and some passionate making out) and he again reserved her for the following Saturday night.
You can blame it on biology and a man’s innate need to spread his seed, or on today’s culture which deems men who sleep with lots of women studs (and women who sleep with lots of men sluts), but it’s just the way it is.
As such, women have control when it comes to sex and can decide whether to give in or not, while men have the control when it comes to commitment.
Do you know what inspires a man to commit, and what makes a woman stand out from the rest in his eyes? ” I tried to stifle my laughter at the absurdity of her statement. A girl who sleeps with a guy on the first date after an evening of intense, meaningful conversation that fosters a bond is much more likely to have a lasting relationship than a girl who sleeps with a guy she hasn’t really formed a connection with on the fifth date.
If not, you need to read this right now: And when they did, my friend finally called me up and said: “I don’t get this, I really, really like him. I first pointed out the fact that she didn’t start really, really liking him until he stopped acting that way toward her. MORE: Ask a Guy – Is Sex on the First Date A Relationship-Killer?