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Whether you’re a gregarious lady who loves the thrill of going out and meeting new people or an introvert who’d rather do a Netflix night in than face the unknown of another date—it’s pretty much a fact that every single woman needs a vacation from the dating game every once in awhile.
It felt like the start of something serious, until she sensed Joe pulling away. “My ego was a little bruised, but I always tried to sense whether there was still something there,” Jaime says.
“And that literally went on for seven years.” Then, Joe was named to ’s 40 Under 40 list and Jaime—who was just named to the list herself—took the opportunity to make a move by sending a friendly (but carefully crafted) congratulatory email.
To avoid that kind of tumultuous situation, there are a few questions you can ask yourself to decide whether you should get back together. If you do ultimately decide to test the waters again, go forth with intention—and caution. That’s exactly what happened to Isabelle*, a 20-something actress in New York, when she got back together with her on-again, off-again college boyfriend.
Worthy advises that if you’ve spent honest time apart and you still miss the other person, it may be worth revisiting the relationship. “It’s such a scary thing because it’s like, am I just being crazy? “Am I just feeling nostalgic and going back to something that’s comfortable? Familiarity bias isn’t just talked about in psych 101 classes.
“When you are ready, you’ll probably think of that person first.”Therapists can list many benefits of going on a break: It’s a chance to rediscover yourself, build appreciation for your significant other (the whole “you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone” thing), and ultimately strengthen your relationship. Chances are the boundaries of what you’re comfortable with will be different from your partner, so it’s important to hash these things out from the beginning, says Matt Lundquist, a clinical social worker in New York.But those who come out on the other side of time apart gain a sense of confidence and gratitude that couldn't be won any other way.“Now there’s so much more trust in the strength of the relationship because we’ve put it through so much,” Isabelle says.“I don’t think it could have worked any other time but now,” she says. Beaucoup de ces femmes recherchent désespérément des aventures quotidiennes.