If he didn’t meet my qualifications enough to that end, I would remain friends but never make any more physical contact than a hug here or there.” Before Kate and Luke married, they said, “We got into the habit of giving each other a brief hug coming and going sometime during the first year of dating.It was good to acknowledge the way we cared for each other with something warmer than a ‘Hi.’ “It felt a bit stiff to us both as we grew to care for each other more, but anytime you are holding back feelings for the right time, things can feel awkward.When people believe it is to have sex before marriage, a little (or a lot of) touching doesn’t really mean anything. Two young people fall in love and, before they are married, they decide to have sex.Even though current stats show that the majority of high school students don’t have sex, many movies like this present this scene as the norm for young people before they say “I do.” The way it unfolds is true to life. In Genesis , God explains how and when a sexual union between a man and a woman should take place: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (emphasis added throughout). The Bible doesn’t specifically address these areas.“We liked to sit close to each other, but it was not until a few months before we were engaged that we sat together with his arm around me.At first, we only did this in my [Kate’s] parents’ home when they were near.After you are engaged, a brief kiss seems appropriate. put it, “I know it is hard to resist kissing someone, especially if they mean a lot to you, or are very attractive.
I respected him deeply for that and still do, even as I sometimes wanted him to kiss me. I want to be your husband.’” Continuing, she recalled, “I had asked my mother when I was young if it was all right to kiss before you were married.(We started dating a year or more after we had known each other as friends with the understanding that we were potentially interested in marriage and wanted to spend time together to find out.) Luke asked me if he could hold my hand initially.Looking back, it was a good thing, even though I questioned it at one point because it became a distraction for me for a short time—either wanting him to hold my hand, or having a difficult time reigning in my thoughts when he did.Individual tolerances to holding hands or other touching may vary, so there’s no hard-and-fast rule.But I would have done better erring on the side of strict conservatism in this area.” Kate, 28, who is married to Luke, wrote: “We didn’t hold hands till almost a year after we started dating.